I'm not your bitch, don't hang your shit on me.

Monday, August 27, 2012

I didn't ask about your boyfriend

Not too long ago, I reconnected with someone from my past and I asked them how they were doing.  The first thing he said was that he was good.  His second sentence started with "My boyfriend and I..." 

Ummm, I didn't ask about your boyfriend, I asked about you. And, if you can't disassociate yourself from your boyfriend, then you've got problems.  They think "I was only half a person until I met him/her." Really? So, all of those years you were single, you weren't complete? There was nothing to live for? You had no accomplishments by yourself? Everything revolves around coupledom?  For some people, you can't have one without the other.

I know people who have been together/married for decades and never mention their partner/spouse in their first couple of sentences upon a meet and greet.  Fuck, I've been embroiled in a conversation for ten minutes only to discover they've become a recent widow/widower.  Now, that's disassociating.

Whatever.  Enjoy your symbiotic relationship.  Me and the wife are doing great, thanks for asking.

Monday, August 13, 2012

A secret post secret

Every Sunday I log onto my news feed and wait to see the newest post from Post Secret.  For those now in the know, Post Secret is a site where people send in postcards (usually handmade) with little notes on them.  Sometimes they're secrets, sometimes they're notes.  They're all anonymous, but when published, the whole world is able to see them.
As I skimmed through the site a few weeks ago, I saw one that felt like it was "speaking" to me.  To quote, I don't know how to talk to you anymore so I just secretly read your posts on the internet.

There are some people who no longer talk to me (and vice versa) due to mitigating circumstances I won't go into.  Part of me wants to reach out, but doing that would mean - at least to me - that I'm the one who was wrong (which I wasn't) and wants to re-connect as a form of forgiveness.  But, that won't happen.  They have to be the ones to make the first step, and if that - teeny, tiny - step is reading my posts, then so be it.

If they want to know what I wrote back, they'll have to log onto Post Secret.