The best intentions?

Some people have the best intentions for others, but they don't always consult the others they have these intentions for. Case in point: my family and friends.

True, they always have my back even when I don't want them to (and when I do need them, they're always there in some form). I'd like to think I'm fairly reliable and able to take care of myself (been doing it for a while now with moderate success). Not everyone sees it that way. I'm always getting reminders and suggestions about how I should run my life, what I should be doing and with whom, for how long, etc. etc.

What they don't understand is if there's something out there to help improve my life, I'm there five minutes before it's being introduced. But, I may not get to all of them on the same day for a few reasons: 1) There are only 24 hours in a day, 2) I am only one man and don't have assistants to take care of all the menial things, and 3) I'm already busy as fuck, running several projects so I might get a little tired after working 16 hours a day.

I know their hearts are in the right place, but sometimes I wonder where the hell their brains are.

Can’t defend that kind of behaviour

After too much pain and suffering, my friend A finally decided to leave his boyfriend. There was too much negativity and sadness in their relationship and it was time to move on. But, A isn’t like me when dealing with relationships: I cut things off and cauterize wounds, he lets them bleed, hoping they’ll heal themselves.

He visited me one day and talked about what he’d been going through and defended the ex. I nodded and heard his concerns, but this behaviour had to stop. Using my life experiences, I won’t defend anyone who has treated me like crap. I'm one that believes if someone truly loves you, they will love you unconditionally.

Not long after we have a talk at my place, I went online and ran across a profile of a certain someone we have in common. Instead of letting it go, I sent A a text. BTW, I just saw your ex is looking for bb sex online. Just thought you should know...

True, it sounded incredibly insensitive, but I think this shock is what A needed to wake up. What I didn’t mention is I saw the ex on a dating site, too. And, if he’s on two sites less than a week after breaking up (while begging A to get back together), then that would mean he’d probably on a dozen others.

I want to shake A when he does this because the ex isn't worth it. If A continues with this kind of attitude towards someone who treated him like garbage, I’m going cut him off when he talks about his loser ex; I can’t stand for that behaviour, anymore.

New year, new book

Although many people make promises of writing books, few of them ever come to fruition. It’s much harder than it appears. With everyone having a 9-5 (or, if you’re me, a 25 hours - 7 days a week) job, there’s little time left to sit at a computer and type.

But, I’ve found the time.

Although I’ve said it before, I am writing a book. This is a new one (the old one isn’t abandoned, believe me) I’m doing with my best friend. We get to split the work in approximately half.

It’s a series of short stories, describing bad dates and relationships for the new year (and maybe a couple of juicy ones from 2010).

Let’s say there will be a lot of people who don’t want to read it. Names will be changed, but that is the extent of the veiling.

And, how sad is it that we can have already ¼ of the book done in the first few weeks of the new year? Yeah, it’s practically writing itself.

It’s going to be a bestseller.

Just stay offline

With the abundance of oversharing on the internet, it comes as a surprise there are those who wish to refrain from it. The thing is, they don’t do it offline. They’re still online, but they have blocked Facebook profiles, secret blogs, and hidden Twitter accounts that are usually password-protected, so there is limited access to the general populace.

I don’t know why they just don’t stay offline. Why spend the time and take the effort to remain hidden? Do they want to know there are others who want to “join” this group? Do they enjoy keeping things from others? Are they just so full of illegal thoughts that can be used as ammunition for the feds?

If that’s the reason, maybe they shouldn’t share anything to begin with. Stay offline.