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Friday, November 20, 2009

Single complaints

There are a few people I know who let it be known they are not particularly happy being single. They don’t want to be alone. They whine there are slim pickings, complain about their relationship status, claim they want a mate... then go out and fuck some random stranger.

In other words, they’re not lonely. They’re horny. They want to get off. It’s an endorphin rush. And when the rush dissipates, they’ll feel alone again. This cycle continues until, one day, they’ve turned 40 and are still alone.

I understand how they feel because I’ve been both single for most of my life. What I don’t understand is the complaining. I know it’s hard out there, but I work at it and don’t sit on my ass waiting for things to happen.

In the end, I’d like to say a few things to these people: Either keep on dating until you find someone who you like (there is someone out there for you), change your criteria/lower your standards, or just shut the fuck up because no one wants to hear about your relationship status because there are many other people in the same situation.


Blogger Justen said...

Lower your standards? I beg to differ. Is it really better to be with someone you're not happy with, with a decision you're constantly questioning? At least if you're unhappy being single you're not dragging someone else into your mess.

November 20, 2009 12:57 am  
Blogger Kevin said...

Tell It!

Personally, and this is just me, but I think the person who feels that they neeeeeeeeed to be with someone to be happy, actually needs to be in therapy more.

The only true and honest way anyone meets anyone is by not even trying. It's sounds cliché, but it's a cliché for a reason.

i'm almost ready for that cocktail ;)

November 20, 2009 3:07 am  
Blogger about a boy said...

i agree with justen and kevin.

1 must not lower standards. unless they are too hoighty toighty for ones own good.

and the best way to meet someone is to just let it happen.

November 20, 2009 10:08 am  
Blogger S said...

Re: lower standards...

Some people expect a rich, powerful, funny/sweet, supermodel with the physical stamina of a porn star to come knocking at their door.

There are very few (if any) of those around.

November 20, 2009 11:13 am  
Blogger JUSTIN said...

I agree with the "organic" method, just casually date, go out, meet people and eventually something will click.

November 20, 2009 12:44 pm  
Blogger Mind Of Mine said...

Organic is always the way to go.

I cannot help but think less of people that moan about being single.

November 21, 2009 6:51 am  
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November 21, 2009 10:31 am  
Blogger Paul Brownsey said...

"I think the person who feels that they neeeeeeeeed to be with someone to be happy, actually needs to be in therapy more."

Not at all. It's part of the corruption of our thought by capitalism that we think everyone should be a stand-alone individual who relates to others just like one free'n'independent entrepreneur entering into a deal with another. And then we stigmatise those who don't agree as being in need of therapy.

It's time for Neediness Liberation. I'm emotionally needy and proud to be so. Why should I have to act like some lone backwoodsman who occasionally gives a distant neighbourly wave to some other similarly-stunted self-contained atom on the next mountain over?

November 27, 2009 10:25 am  
Blogger Brand New W said...

Hmm, is this aimed at me? Hurtful.

November 27, 2009 11:03 am  
Blogger victor.casanueva said...

Living means you are at risk.If you dont finf your twin soul(few gays do)do not feel miserable.Life is rich and complex.do not despair!

November 28, 2009 2:26 pm  

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