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Friday, November 16, 2007


You can’t always get what you want…

When The Rolling Stones sang this line, they didn’t know how prescient it would be. Even when life is filled with champagne wishes and caviar dreams, no one can snap their fingers and have anything presented to them on a silver platter. And when it comes to matters of the heart, there is no amount of wanting that can make someone unattainable want you in return.

Normally, there are three kinds of unattainability:

1. You like someone, but him/her doesn't know who you are.

2. You like someone, but him/her doesn't like you the way you like them.

3. You like someone, but him/her doesn't like you.

They all have their good sides and bad sides. Some may be better than others, while some may be worse than others. It all depends on the person and the situation.

The first situation is where no one gets hurt (usually). You see them from afar and you can daydream and plan your life with them. Quite often, these fantasies entail celebrities or those who are on a higher social echelon (money, looks, education, a combination of all of the above). The only vested interest is that of a visual nature.

The second situation is the most painful. It typically is the most emotionally draining. Quite often, the reason why they don’t like you is because they like someone else more than you (which is fair). But, if they are a flirt or enjoy playing games, they can lead you on for an undetermined amount of time. You end up wasting precious time and energy on someone who doesn’t want you even though you’re hoping that they’ll leave their current paramour for you (and it rarely happens, even in Danielle Steel novels).

The third situation is like a Band-Aid that is ripped off: a sharp sting, but then it’s over in a couple of seconds. There can be a red mark, maybe a bit of skin removed, and a couple of drops of blood, but you’ll survive since you have developed a thicker skin after situation number two.

In the end, no situation is ideal. Your heart can be lonely, played with, or ripped out of your chest while it’s still beating. If it was ideal, you’d always get what you want, no matter what The Rolling Stones sing.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, if this pertains to you right now, I hope that the other party turns out to very attainable (thats a word?)
I think I've had quite a few #2's though

November 16, 2007 3:11 am  
Blogger Sooo-this-is-me said...

If there is anything that I am an expert at regarding relationships, it is in liking guys that don't like me back! O_O


November 16, 2007 9:35 am  
Blogger about a boy said...

and where are we at today?

unrequited love is so middle ages.

November 16, 2007 10:36 am  
Blogger Random Thinker said...

another dark post. You need to get out in the sun!

November 16, 2007 11:57 am  
Blogger RomanHans said...

How about "You like someone and they like you -- until you tell them you like them and then they decide you're too easy"? Also known as "The Story of My Life."

These days I tell everybody I hate them: that way at least the masochists want more.

November 16, 2007 1:03 pm  
Blogger Marquis said...

Oh I can relate to number 2.I was just came to terms with someone that I liked and he did not like me the same way. Sucks but in the end I will be better for it.

November 16, 2007 4:18 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"You can’t always get what you want…"

Not so! A good blow job can pretty much get you anything your heart desires. :o)

November 16, 2007 6:25 pm  
Blogger nash said...

But don't forget "you get what you need"

November 16, 2007 7:21 pm  
Anonymous Adorable Girlfriend said...

Nash is correct. You also have to know that people like AG find a nice Toronto boy like UC and fall in love. It may seem foreign to y'all, but it does happen.

Cheer up, kitten!

November 16, 2007 9:06 pm  

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