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Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Acquaintances with benefits

“Friends with benefits” is a widely-used term used to describe two people who have a relationship (but are not dating) and have sex with each other. When they have an itch, the other is there to scratch it for them. It’s a very simple – and carnal – version of quid pro quo.

But, I always thought of it as being a rather complicated scenario. What happens when you’re no longer friends? Should you still expect a little action? What happens when you want it to be something else, but the other person wants to continue with what you have?

To alleviate all of that, I think it’s best to come up with a new relationship: acquaintances with benefits.

Basically, it’s the same relationship as the aforementioned one, but there’s no emotional attachment involved. You can spend time with them, have a drink, go shopping, etc. before falling into bed. It makes you feel less sullied (especially if one-nighters aren’t your thing), and there’s none of the messiness involved if things take a turn for the worse.

It’s win-win for both parties.

It’s too bad I have very few acquaintances that I would want to fuck.

12 Comments:

Blogger Marquis said...

Friends and sex! Hmm! just doesn't work for me. I like my friends to be friends and just that. Sex with someone that is your friend is just messy. I do like your term. Hell I have had that in the past and at this point wouldn't walk away from it.

January 22, 2008 8:30 am  
Blogger Chris said...

The one time I tried that, the other person ended up developing a huge, catastrophic crush on me. It was not pretty. 5 years later, things are still weird between us. But I'm totally over it.

January 22, 2008 9:20 am  
Blogger Sooo-this-is-me said...

Looks good on paper but in real life I don't think it often works that well. I think I would become attached to the other person and it would hurt too much knowing they only wanted to get off and not really care about me. Still, if a friend offered right now, I don't think I would say no! My bad!

Steven

January 22, 2008 9:44 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

These "benefit" packages sound great when trying to sell the idea to a friend, however the fine print is always ignored. Even if you mask it with the term acquaintance. It always gets messy...One person is never totally fine with just keeping it sexual.

best,
a.

January 22, 2008 10:58 am  
Blogger Preposterous Ponderings said...

This is the very reason why 1 night stands are a better idea!

January 22, 2008 11:58 am  
Blogger Lewis said...

That's why I absolutely, 100% must, only have friends around whom I would fuck. They must be good looking, hot, sexy, naughty, egotistical, show offs, and (of course) WILLING. If they aren't? Get rid of 'em. They're outta here!

January 22, 2008 1:53 pm  
Blogger hot-lunch said...

sounds like too much work. i prefer "fuck buddies" ! don't have to waste time doing the "friendship" part!

January 22, 2008 3:45 pm  
Anonymous the wiz said...

I have a friend ... Totally magic for 3 or 4 hours once a fortnight or so where we loose ourselves. And I get to keep my life as I like it ...

January 22, 2008 7:45 pm  
Anonymous glenn said...

I don't think "friends with benefits" really work. You can meet someone, have sex, and become friends. That's happened a couple of times. But once you become friends, the sex just feels weird. The concept of fuck buddies is a lot easier. You know what you are to each other and you agree, explicitly or not, to leave it there.

January 23, 2008 9:52 pm  
Blogger about a boy said...

i dont know. i cant see having sex with any of my friends. unless they are friends ive already had sex with.

but im doing something ive not done in a long while and putting all my eggs in one basket. i think.

January 24, 2008 9:29 am  
Anonymous viagra online said...

It is an excellent concept, but I rather prefer the term friends, if you both dont see each other that much, and only meet for sex, well I think there is no danger of loosing that friendship.

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